Monday, April 11, 2016

OOTD: Almost Beautiful


I was, what they would call, an almost beautiful.

You don’t know how many times I’ve heard from so-called friends and random people that I could be beautiful… But I am fat. If only I would lose a couple more pounds I’d be more beautiful. If only I can fit in those tight jeans and shirt, then maybe I’d finally be sexy. If only.



There was a point when it did get to me. I pushed myself to lose weight. And when people saw me eating less they’d be like, “it won’t last long. You won’t lose weight. You can’t make it.” And so I showed them. I lost weight. I lost a lot of weight. But to my surprise, I never felt happy. I never felt beautiful. I never felt sexy. I felt lacking. It was like I’m trying to please other people but I never stopped to ask, “What do I want? What does my body want?

Growing up as a plussize girl isn’t a walk in a park. Hell, we don’t even want to walk in a park because the other kids would laugh at us. It was, and still at times, a struggle for me. Wearing something sleeveless would often turn a head and wearing a swimwear for the summer would generate some giggles. It’s like some people think us, plussize girls, do not have the license to feel beautiful and feel sexy.

Dress: Love Curves | Shoes: Nicky | Bag: Liz Claiborne


Weird.

It kind of got me thinking though as to why do some people equate being fat to being ugly? I have never read a legitimate dictionary that described or even said that fat is synonymous to ugly; or that fatness is a hindrance to being truly beautiful. It just doesn’t make sense. And if you will look up the word sexy in the dictionary, it doesn’t also give a specific vital statistics that would ultimately define what kind of body is sexy. So that means… Being beautiful and being sexy is all in our mind and is just based on our own perspectives. So if I think I’m beautiful and sexy and would like to say that out loud, you cannot legitimately contest because I am, technically, right.

At this day and age, we should already be over body shaming (this goes both ways – fat, thin, etc.). We are not born nor meant to have the same body types. We also have different lifestyles and upbringings that make us who we are and do what we need to do in this world.


Beauty is diverse. Beauty is not just one color nor one body type. Beauty is in each of us. We just need to own it.

64 comments:

  1. I feel you. Just that it is the opposite. My problem is that I am always thin every since. Ok, realistically speaking I am even underweight. I so hate and no time to exercise. I have no time to eat healthy food coz I leave alone.

    There was this one guy whom I was seeing for a while, he ditched me because of not being voluptuous. Another 2 guys I met on Tinder told me after our first coffee date, I am too skinny.

    Well, as much as I want to, but this is me. I just tell myself if some individuals can't just accept me of who i am, then so be it. We dont have to change just becaues of pressure, we just need to accept things. Still i am praying i do get time to do yoga :)


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    1. That is something some people fail to realize. Both fat and skinny people do get judged and discriminated. Hope you get the time to do yoga. Exercise for your own health and for your own self :D

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  2. Beauty is how you define yourself, and not what the other people defines it. :)

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  3. I agree with you. Beauty is diverse! The most important thing is you feel happy.

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  4. Love your body, no two women are alike!

    Xoxo
    MrsMartinez

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  5. I'm wondering how you got the hair color -- did you use bleach?

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    1. I bleached my hair before and made it pink... Then I had it darkened through a cellophane treatment and as days go by, I was left with this color :)

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  6. You go girl! I agree! There is no concrete definition of beauty and it is all up to one's perception. Beauty is very subjective and we all have our own definition of it.

    Jenn
    The Pink Lemonade Girl
    Bloglovin

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  7. Yes! You are beautiful, and kebs to the people who say otherwise. :)

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  8. Yes!!! You've said it all! Everyone is beautiful and sexy in their own way!
    http://silkypearl.com/

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  9. Girl you are beyondddddd beautiful, you are stunning! This looks amazing on you love the peplum with the leather piping!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

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  10. You look gorg with the dress! Please always keep in touch, I would love to hear from you!

    Follow me @qingsstyle on Instagram and Twitter!

    Qing's Style

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  11. You go girl! Just be comfortable with yourself!

    xx
    Xin

    http://xincerely.blogspot.com

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  12. I loved this post and so true about everything you said don't let what people say get to you you are beautiful and you are what you feel so feel confident and beautiful in your own skin girl and rock it like you don't care you should check out my post I did on Adore Yourself http://tweetykel.blogspot.com/2016/03/adore-yourself.html
    I hope you like it and this helped you to feel a lot better
    Have a great day

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    1. Thank you Kerona! Read your post and I feel every word in it. True that sometimes it can be the people closest to us that ruins our perception of self-love... I struggle with that a lot.

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  13. You look beautiful!Your curves look perfect in that outfit! And your post shows how much this has nothing to do with body size nor what people think about you...
    ♥♥♥
    Jeanne
    http://www.fashionmusingsdiary.com

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  14. Omg some people are so rude. I've experienced these kind of comments as well when I was younger. Nowadays I'm not that bothered anymore with what people think about me. You shouldn't either! You look stunning in this dress!

    x Karen
    http://dressinginlabels.blogspot.com

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  15. We live in a society filled with judgmental people :( I also get insecure sometimes. I have flaws and they make me so conscious of what other people will tell me.
    I'm glad you're able to conquer that! I hope I could too, someday. Little by little I am hoping to gain self esteem.

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  16. So sexy and chic at same time, great look girl!!!!
    Kisses, Paola.

    Expressyourself

    My Facebook

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  17. You look amazing, especially love your hair color and how classy you look!

    Prudence
    www.prudencepetitestyle.com

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  18. Ah, I really love your last words and it's is such an inspiration. We have to love for what we are and I think beautiful is about heart and mind, somehow if people have beautiful heart and mind, I just feel like she/ he (s) beautiful as well <3

    xoxo,

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  19. I really don't like using the word fat because I just feel like it has such negative vibes associated with it, so I prefer curvy or voluptuous....YEAH, voluptuous is MUCH better and IS sexy! Society cannot make up it's mind as to what it wants to categorize sexy as because if you're too thin, then you're labeled anorexic and like you said, if you're plus sized or curvier, you're called fat. Not to mention that you have to have the big boobs, small waist and huge butt, let's not forget that the bigger the butt the more sexy you are, real or not. So, it makes no sense to turn to the validation of society because their views are always changing. I'm a huge proponent to body confidence and self love and acceptance and I truly feel that when we begin to accept our bodies and learn what works and what doesn't for our particular body shape, then we can then have a more strategic eye for styling and feel better about the way we look. Of course confidence is much deeper than that, it comes form realizing just how special and unique we are. There is NO ONE like you at all on the face of this planet, Gellie, nor will there ever be. Think about that! Anyone who puts you down and tries to make you feel less than is only revealing to you their own insecurities, it has nothing at all to do with you! Love yourself because you ARE beautiful and you ARE sexy and you ARE one of a kind, that is all I see :) I hope you have a wonderful week, gorgeous, and keep your head UP!

    XO,

    Jalisa
    www.thestylecontour.com

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  20. Screw them! You're pretty! Not only that, you're also empowering. I suggest cutting off those negative people from your life. Cheers!

    Awesome post! And FAB outfit!

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  21. I don't know what it is with people and weight. I remember as well people telling me "you're so thin! if only you'd gain a bit more weight.. mas gaganda ka!" :( But growing up, I learned not to care. My metabolism is too fast and I can't do anything about that.

    I believe you're beautiful in and out, Gel! :) Keep inspiring people!

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  22. I agree! I've always tried to get taller and gain weight, but now it's unimportant to me. Beauty comes in all different shapes and sizes. Love this look on you! :)

    -Jannette | The Diary of a Daydreamer

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  23. People and their body shaming, you know what. Why should you be affected by them? I agree with Jalisa. Keep your head high friend. You are gorgeous no matter what.

    Aly In Wanderland | alyinwanderland.com | Alyssa X

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  24. Beauty is about living your life and being happy with yourself inside and out, and not worrying about what people think of you. :)

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  25. You are beautiful! No matter what people say! - www.travelonshoestring.com

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  26. The bag and the hair is nice and very complementary. Nice outfit with a smile.

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  27. Lovely, adorable and pretty outfit! I enjoyed your post very much, keep sharing dear!
    Greetings from MissGrey.ro Romania!
    https://missgrey.ro/ro/rochii/rochie-alessia/404

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