Tuesday, May 03, 2016

OOTD: Dating as a Millennial

Let’s face it. No matter which era you belong to, dating will never be easy. There are those who call themselves the “experts,” but how do we really define being a dating expert to be like? Can you be an expert if you’ve found love easily? Can you be an expert if you have never been hurt? Can you be an expert if you can juggle more than one partner at a time? Can you be an expert if you can get laid anytime you want? Truth be told, no one can ever really be an expert because dating is and never will be a game you can practice until you perfect it. Dating is complex whether you’re a player or you’re in it for the real thing.

When I was single, all I really wanted was to find my one true love and I don’t mind kissing a lot of frogs until I find the prince amongst them. It was never easy for me growing up as a not typically attractive girl. I actually even thought that you can teach your heart to fall in love with the person who already loves you and be happy in the end. Some people may say that it worked for them but it sure as hell did not work that way for me. That is why I never liked idea of waiting for a guy to ask me out and just choosing amongst those who had the courage to do so. It’s so suffocating. I feel like I don’t have the freedom to choose who I want to be with. I called BS on being an overly conservative girl. I will never be that girl.

As I was growing older, I learned that there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy out on a date if you find him interesting. As a matter of fact, there are actually guys who would never open up unless you initiate something. Case in point, my fiancé.

I liked him as a friend so I told myself, “why not ask him if he’d like to hangout?” And so I did. We had coffee, dinner, and some karaoke on our first date. It turned out well because after that, we became closer and before I knew it he finally asked to kiss me one night. See? It worked for me so why would it be impossible to work for others?

Dress: SM Surplus | Cardigan: Cotton On | Shoes: Payless
As much as I do not believe in calling people “dating experts,” some of my friends do think I’m one. Some of them ask me for advice on what to do in this situation, or that, or whatever, and some actually even ask me for relationship advice! When I give people advice though, I only have one thing in mind… Remember that every person is different and you can NEVER COMPARE TWO PEOPLE AS IF THE OTHER WILL REACT THE WAY THE OTHER PERSON DID so make sure you give options but never give an ultimate solution to a friend’s problem when it comes to relationships. Especially at this day and age, we millennials, are pretty complex. Some of us tend to oversimplify or overcomplicate things. In short, never assume until proven true. So if you’re having problems with someone or you want to know the truth like if he or she likes you… Just ask. If things get too complicated for you to handle or comprehend, leave if it’s not worth it anymore. Only you can know what you’re worth of.

Dating differs with every person. Don’t assume. Don’t generalize. Just be yourself. Don’t be a player and don’t join the game.


  1. Get it girl! You look adorable! In love with this floral dress on you!

    <3 Shannon
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  2. So pretty, I love your floral dress!!!
    Kisses, Paola.


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  3. Wow. Engaged already? Congrats!

    - Seyra x

  4. I totally get your strungle, I'm such a sucker at asking people out!

    x Karen

  5. Wow. I like the part where you went as a princess, but I guess I might not be kissing some frogs Gellie. Haha. Dating is really different. And the more it feels different and great when you are able to spend it with THE ONE. I am so happy for you and totally rocking the hair and that dress. Stay amazing!

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  6. Aw, I think that's so cute how you and your fiancé first started dating! My husband and I actually met at a bus stop, hahaha! I was leaving work, before I had a car, and was waiting for my bus, which I didn't know had already left, it came early! I was waiting and waiting and that's when he approached me. I was REALLY hard to get, but long story short, it all worked out because we've been together for 10 years now and married for 7! I believe when you truly are desperately searching for love or anything for that matter, you never really find it. It's when you don't expect it that things just kind of fall into place, which is why I'm not big on the whole dating expert thing either! Thanks so much for sharing and I hope you have an amazing week ahead, gorgeous!



    1. Thanks for sharing your story too Jalisa! Yours felt like a total plot from a romcom. So cute! <3

  7. Such a cute outfit! Love the story of how you and your finance started dating. Dating definitely differs, I love what you said, "only you can know what you’re worth of."


  8. This is a good read. I only had dates with my friends. Hahaha! Thanks for your wonderful comment on Qing's Style Please always keep in touch, I would love to hear from you!

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  9. I think I can say I'm bad at dating haha I would never know if I guy likes me until a friend would tell me. I always see them as friends. Di pa uso yung "friendzone" term nun haha somehow I feel bad but I think that's for the better. And it worked naman, until now, I'm friends with them. I am not typically attractive to (physically) but I believe that it's my personality that they like. Haha chos. And I think that's more important naman than the looks. :)
    I agree, never compare, since people are all different so dating is different too haha

    1. I think a lot of people are now smarter and more sensible with how they choose their partners. They know that superficial beauty will eventually fade kaya most people really do give a second look so that they can get to know the person more and not just what's on the surface. :)

  10. Your relationship is very wise, thanks so much for sharing! You look so cute btw!


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  12. This post is adorable! I totally don't think there's anything wrong with girls asking out guys and it obviously worked for you :) You look lovely- the muted tones in this outfit are great

    Rachel xx

  13. like reading thru your thoughts on dating! thanks for sharing!

    Have a great day!
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  14. Very nice thoughts on dating I really like your advice. you look so cute dear :) x

  15. This is such a beautifully written post!
    I used to be absolutely terrified of the mere idea of asking a guy out or initiating a relationship. As time went on, I realized that there was absolutely nothing wrong with me asking someone out, and taking the first step in the relationship.
    The photos are stunning :) I'm in-love with your hair! x Alona


  16. Wow such an amazing post and beautiful romantic look! I'm in love with your hair! Have an amazing day gorgeous!

  17. Such a cute post! And indeed, dating is different for people. My first boyfriend was a horror even if he was my childhood friend, so it took me two years before I went on dating a guy again! Lol! You can't teach the heart to love someone who loves you.. if you don't naman! Agree as well on this! It takes a lot :)

  18. Great dress! Love your look. Gemma x

  19. Ok, first of all...you are gorgeous! And why you would say you aren't, is beyond me. No wonder you found your prince charming, you babe!

    xx Leah / www.eatpraywearlove.com

  20. Beautiful. What a lovely space to sew. Thanks for sharing x

  21. Great advice, for any generation. I love your dress, very cute style!

    Eden | Mint Notion

  22. Awesome advice girl! Thanks for sharing! Have a fabulous weekend!
    Much love, Len

  23. I totally agree with you about dating, hun!
    And your happy ending gives me hope, since I'm very similiar to you in this!^^
    Anyway, you look adorable, love your hairstyle! :D

  24. Hahah lovely post, loved reading it! Xx


  25. I agree that dating is not the same and it differs from person to person. I say good on you for making your move! If you never took the initiative then you probably would never be with your fiancé.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

    1. True that. Glad I had the courage and confidence to do it. xD

  26. Woa, thanks for sharing your date experience with us and also you look attractive as well from those photos! I like the long cardy tho <3




  27. A good read indeed...thanks for sharing your date experience baby...xoxo, Neha


  28. Hahah thank you for sharing, indeed dating can be hard and confusing. x


  29. This was such a original and unique post, I really liked it! You have a lot of wisdom to share haha :)


  30. Gorgeous outfit, this was a great post :)

  31. Such a cute look, love florals on you!

  32. I hate dating, never gone to many of them but I find it so awkward. Loving the dress!

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  33. Super cute story, love that your so open and share it to all of us singel ladies. I wish you and your prince all the best ♡


  34. Great post. Well done.
    I love this lovely dress and your smile.
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  35. Great post. Well done.
    I love this lovely dress and your smile.
    You have a interesting blog.

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